tea fit for the queen

So I don't really have the greatest track record for being attracted to the best of characters. I am very much in that stereotype of falling for the "bad boy" image...maybe if the nice guys would grow beards then I would change my mind on that haha....anyways...

I was recently talking with one of my friends about feminism and women's roles vs men's roles. This is a touchy subject for a lot of people. I was very soft as I entered the conversation as I was unsure of his opinion on the matters. We actually had a good chat but since it was over fb we both agreed to continue it when in person. He did however send over an essay he had written on why wives should submit to their husbands for me to read. He did not send it to me because I was saying that wives should not (I believe that the Bible says wives should so I very much agreed with him). He mentioned to me in passing that he had written it so I asked ot see it.

It was a 7 page paper so I am not going to repost the whole thing on here, but I do want to highlight one section of it. I have read a lot of papers, heard a lot of sermons, and seen a lot of books on why the wife should submit. They all just talk to the wife and go on and on about how she needs to submit no matter what (afterall we are the weaker gender right?...ahem). This one, however, was different than all the rest. He put all the ownness on the husband. He challenged the guys to stop being "little boys who shave" and to start being men. Husbands are supposed to treat their wives like Christ treats the church. News flash - Christ came and died for the church! He gave his life to save the church! Girls, why the frig are we falling for these boys who really don't care about us? Why are we putting ourselves in positions to maybe have to one day submit to a boy? We should be waiting for the men who will sacrifice everything for us. When the men who will give up their lives for us come along, we will have no problem submitting to them. We need to stop wasting our time with the toads and wait for the frogs who will come and will give everything they are so that they can be our prince. I have pretty much described what I got out of the section but I am going to paste it below so that you can read it for yourself. I felt like a princess after reading it, hopefully you will too. If a young 20yr old guy wrote this paper then you can know that the world is not full of boys who shave but there are some really great men out there. You just have to wait for the one to come to give everything he is for you. I hope you enjoy reading the section below as much as I did.

"First, it must be said that to “submit” to your husband does not mean for the women that they submit to all men, only your husband. Many women (and men) lose sight of this in a quick reading of the text. The instruction is for wives to submit ONLY to their husbands. By submitting, I would suggest that this does not mean to blindly obey your husband or allow him to abuse you but to follow his leadership and respect that he is leading you. As Eve was made to be a helper for Adam (Genesis 2), so should women come alongside their husband, join his way of life and help him with whatever God has called him to do in life (trust me, men need a lot of help). However, many women, even Christian women, seem very opposed to this idea. I think the main reason for this opposition is this: unfortunately, far too often “men” of today are seen playing video games, laughing at crude jokes, trying to see who can burp the loudest, disrespecting women and frankly growing up to be boys who can shave. They act more like children who need their girlfriends or their wives to take responsibility instead of themselves. With much dismay, I admit that my gender does not act often like real men should. To be honest, I believe that men today still struggle with the same sin that Adam committed when he let his wife Eve eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. While Eve disobeyed God and did exactly what He had instructed her not to do, Adam committed a sin of omission and just stood there while Eve brought the whole of humankind to sin (Genesis 3:6). While you may think that we could blame Eve for the Fall, God doesn’t seem to hold Eve responsible at all. Who is the first person he turns to? Adam. God directly addresses Adam as responsible for his wife’s actions (Genesis 3:10-11). The truth is, God expects men to lead, to stand up, to man up and take responsibility like so few men do today, continually committing the same sin of omission that their father Adam did. Ladies, this makes the idea of submitting to your husband or future husband seem harder than it should be given the fact that your future husband is typically one of these boys who can shave and continues to lack the masculinity to take responsibility for himself and eventually a wife and children. However, the biblical model of a man says that he loves his wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). So, when Paul instructs wives to submit to their husbands, he is not instructing you to submit to childish, immature men but to a man who loves you to the point that he gave himself up for you. He is willing to sacrifice all of himself for you, as Jesus did for all of us. This means that if a ship is sinking and there are only spots in the life boats for half the ship, the men give up themselves for their wives and children (quite unlike a lot of the men on the Titanic who got on board the life boats before their wives or children did. They were cowards). Ladies, if you ever find a man that is anything like the biblical picture of a man, I suggest you pursue him. Though they are few and far between, they do exist and to these manly men, Paul instructs women to submit to. In summary, it should be easy for a wife to submit to her husband if her husband is the kind of man God would desire him to be."